Wise men say, “Only fools rush in.”
But I can’t help
Falling in love with you…
Whoa! I never noticed that this hit UB40 tune is from an album entitled “Promises and Lies.” How fitting for a conversation about love, not real love, but the sappy, sick, perverted (yet, well-intended) love that so many people are searching for and paying tens of thousands of dollars to celebrate on wedding days. That love is a bunch of promises and lies, is it not? Real love, though, is God. It’s selfless, sacrificial, unconditional and everlasting. I wouldn’t trust Merriam or Webster on this one. I’d go somewhere holier – something more true:
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a
Argue with the Bible if you want to. I’m not.
I recently had the occasion to tell a person who loves me very much how much I love Mr. This came after explaining why I did not feel I was ready to marry Mr and a review of the evidence for why Mr is not ready to marry me. It could be that holding on to my dream of living and working abroad is characteristic of my reluctance to “grow up” (i.e. become someone’s wife, have babies, and keep house). Could be. It could look like Mr is a sub-par mate with lots of baggage and problems that are simply unfair to unload into someone else’s life. This is a valid point as well. None of these things; however, takes away from the fact that we want to be with each other as husband and wife. In fact, despite who we are and the hangups we bring to the table, we want to work through them. We know exactly who the other person is as much as we know who we are, and in spite of what we see, we still choose to build something better – together. But we don’t want to be foolish about it. Haste makes waste.
I read this great blog post today. I’ll share it in its entirety because it was an awesome piece of personal, reflective writing, and it is written by a married, Hasidic Jew, who is a man. On the surface, if he and I were walking down the street together, we would probably look like polar opposites, but on the topic of love – real love – we could not be more similar. Enjoy… Continue reading